Whether it be with an ex-spouse, business partner, family member in which you have severed contact, or any number of other conflictual relationships, you may have to deal with that person because of a common interest or something still shared. These situations are difficult for everyone involved, but they still may be necessary and unavoidable. People often feel these types of relationships are impossible to work through and unavoidable with that particular person. You may begin to feel hopeless and worried that a solution or break through will ever occur.
Our Noyau therapists are experts in making these situations easier and less conflict ridden than they require. Your therapist is not going to make a decision on who is right and who is wrong. He or she will work with you both to find a solution that best meets both of your needs. You will gain insight and understanding while being able to voice your thoughts, feelings, and ideas in a safe environment. These relationships do not have to remain a source of anxiety, frustration, or anger. You can work together with the right help and attention.
How to Prepare
Be sure to bring any documents, contracts, agreements, or correspondence that your therapist needs to review in order to work with you. These may include divorce decrees, partnership agreements, legal documents, etc. If possible, getting these to your therapist in advance would be beneficial. (Lengthy document overview may require an additional fee.)
Try not to speak to the person you are coming to mediation with before or between sessions, especially about the issues at hand. If you have not been able to work through these issues on your own up to this point, it will be more beneficial to wait until you are with the therapist. Doing so could negatively effect the progress being made in your therapy sessions by causing additional anger and frustration or developing new issues that will have to be addressed.
What to Expect
Be prepared to sit in the same room as the person in which you are having difficulty (unless a court order states otherwise). Your therapist may split you up as he or she sees fit, but being in the same place will help you to work together more easily in the future. Try to come in with the mindset of being as open and honest about your needs, feeling, and desires as possible. The more upfront you are in the process, the better the results will be for you.
Your therapist will work with both of you to find the best solution. You both need to be comfortable with the middle ground that is agreed upon and be willing to act accordingly. Both participants have their own needs and motivations which are valid and deserve to be heard and considered. Your therapist will make sure there is clear understanding and acceptance of the decision that has been reached.
Ultimately, your progress is up to how cooperative, forthcoming, and understanding you are during the process. You will most likely need to let go of some things in order to move forward productively. Your therapist will help you figure out what is most important to you and let go of the anxiety and anger that has festered over the course of the relationship.
Meet The Staff
Angela S. Taylor is Co-Founder of Noyau Wellness Center, Senior Therapist, and Executive/Business Coach. In addition to maintaining her private practice, Angela is consistently sought out to lend her expert opinion to media outlets such as CBS, Fox, ABC, and the CW. She also frequently develops and trains other therapists and practicing counselors. Angela works to empower individuals, couples, and families to reach success and fulfillment in life and in career.View Angela’s Bio
As a Co-Founder of Noyau Wellness Center, Charity Adams is a highly respected, educated, trained, and experienced Senior Therapist and Coach. Charity’s engaging and outgoing personality makes her a preferred therapeutic media consultant and guest speaker on topics including: Parenting, Relationship Issues, Multiculturalism, Anger Management and Sexual Assault/Domestic Violence. Charity has appeared on many local media outlets including CBS 11.View Charity’s Bio
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