Are you experiencing the following?
- Fear of being alone
- Fear of abandonment
- Intense anger
- Difficulty controlling anger
- Impulsivity (overspending, substance abuse, binge eating, reckless driving, engaging in unsafe sex)
- Fear of rejection
- Pattern of intense or unstable relationships
- A need to be the center of attention
- Rapid and repeated change of occupation
- Feeling invisible
- Feeling like you don’t matter or are “bad”
- Mood swings
- Feelings of hopelessness and despair
- Suicidal ideations
- Feelings of anxiety or panic
- Feelings of emptiness
- Feelings of shame or guilt
Individuals struggling with borderline personality disorder experience life with a negative view point. They see themselves as evil, unloved, or unloveable. Anger, panic, and fear over being left out or abandoned, rule their thinking. To counter these painful emotions, clients with Borderline Personality Disorder often “act out.” Striving to be the center of attention, they may cause conflict, act impulsively, or display extreme anger at a person or situation.
You commonly feel as though you are never “good enough” or that you never had the potential to be “good enough.” Believing that no one truly cares for you can be debilitating. Striving to feel loved and wanted, clients with Borderline Personality Disorder invest quickly in relationships, sharing intimate details almost immediately. Emotionally investing after only a few weeks, they feel betrayed when their partner does not meet their expectations. You may feel that no one has ever given you the ample love you need or deserve, adding to your feelings of betrayal.
Therapists at Noyau Wellness understand the pain that an unsatisfied life can bring. Working with you through a collaborative partnership, therapists strive to help you process the pain of that betrayal. Recognizing negative or illogical thinking that magnifies such feelings can also be beneficial for clients with borderline personality disorder. Making changes to ones way of thinking is never an easy process but doing so in a safe and nurturing environment can ease some of the stress and anxiety that surround creating a new life.
You may have tried and failed to make changes in the past. These attempts often lead people to believe that no matter what they do, nothing will change. Looking at situations from differing viewpoints may be difficult. Seeing another’s position in various situations may be a difficult concept to master. The acceptance that others have a differing reality of events may cause feelings of dissonance. Recognizing incongruence between your perspective and others can be extremely beneficial to maintaining change in your thinking, feelings, and behaviors. Working with a therapist to learn techniques meant to pinpoint these differences and expand your subjective world view to include positive perspectives can help you realize the optimistic future that awaits you.
While looking for ways to feel accepted and loved, people with borderline personality disorder often engage in unsafe and risky behavior. Irresponsible spending, excessive gambling, substance abuse, unsafe sexual practices, reckless driving, and self injury are all ways people use to “punish” themselves for being what they feel is “evil.” While these behaviors provide short term bursts of joy or excitement, they are quickly replaced with feelings of guilt and shame. Regrets begin to pile up until there appears to be no way out. Thoughts of suicide often plague people with borderline personality disorder. Depression, anxiety, panic attacks, and phobias are also common for individuals living with the disorder.
Seeking help is essential when thoughts of hopelessness or helplessness fog your mind. Working with an experienced therapist to overcome these fearful thoughts and emotions can be life saving. The collaborative team at Noyau Wellness works with clients who suffer from borderline personality disorder through many avenues. Treating not only the mind, but the body as well, experts communicate and share treatment options that help move clients towards their goals of living a fulfilling and successful life. At Noyau Wellness, we believe every person deserves to see themselves as worthy and valuable while living a life free of fear or guilt.